Just when I thought I was done with Match.com and all its members.....I get this email

Hey there, How are you today? I have to say that you are one amazingly stunning woman! I would like to get to know you! My name is Guy 1, I'm single with no children, I moved to Nashville from Florida last year, I don't really know anyone other then who I work with. I'm looking to meet someone to date or to get to know for a more long term relationship and if all goes well and we have fun together we'll just see where things lead! I'm cool with pretty much anything I'm open minded for different ideas! I have a couple tattoos and piercings, I'm a pretty fun guy to be around so I've been told. I live in a nice condominium in Downtown Nashville, I drive a 2012malibu, I have a good job and I am a small business owner, I have a degree in business, I just started my business a couple months ago. Once I find some free time I'm going to go back to school to become a masseuse I've always been really good with my hands. I've always been a honest faithful guy, I like to show the person I'm with the best time I possibly can, I've always been the type of person to be upfront and blunt about mostly anything. Well theres so much more about me that I could put in this email but I would rather wait and see if you are interested in talking... So would you be interested in getting to know each other better sweetie...I hope to hear from you soon..Christian p.s. so what do you say, give an old fashioned guy in this new way world a chance?


Isn't this lovely. The best part about this whole email is me reading it to my mom unaware that I had a huge piece of strawberry in my two front teeth. But oh yes I am one amazingly stunning woman ;-) That gave mother and sister quite a good laugh. I am flattered he decided to write me a book.

Lights on Lights off. Mr. Knee Surgery Date!

Last night I had my first date with Mr. Knee Surgery. We went to Chili's for dinner. I got there about 5 minutes early as I typically do and he got there right on time. Not late... that is a definite plus for me. He called me to let me know he was there and we got out of our cars hugged and met for the first time. He said, "You look so pretty, wow nice car!" haha. He was really cute and had big blue eyes. We got a table immediately. This date was originally supposed to be a coffee date, but because of my diet I can't have coffee for a while. I apologized that it wasn't the coffee date he dreamed of and he said, "Nah I don't even drink coffee anyway" but I knew he was just trying to make me feel better. I ordered a water and he ordered a Sprite... the water said "sweet tea" and he said "no Sprite". So then our drinks come and he definitely brought him a sweet tea. I went to correct him and he said no no its okay I love sweet tea anyway its what I really wanted. Go with the flow....I like it. Dinner was great. This guy is a talker, which I love! Most guys on match.com tend to be more on the shy side, not Mr. Knee Surgery. In fact sometimes he would jump from subject to subject and I was like whoa total change of conversation, were we done with the last one? I really liked that though because I do that often too. It kept my attention. He talked about work, his sister, his niece, his friends, his church, his trips he has taken, and his mom. I learned a lot. We both had a really good laugh when the manager came to fill his sweet tea that he loved and spilled it all over the table and on part of his jeans. She said "Oh my goodness I am so sorry did I get you!" He just smiled and said, "Just a little its no big deal I love sweet tea."....Not easily angered or annoyed. I am really liking him by this point and dinner went really fast and he goes, "Well lets get out of here." I was suddenly really bummed that it ended so quickly and thought he really wasn't into and was just ready to go.

We walked out the door and I spotted a friend who was getting Chili's to go so I ran over and said hi and introduced them quickly and talked for a minute. We hugged and started walking to my car and he said, "So do you want to just leave your car here are you okay with that?" I got super excited and said "Yes where are we going?" "How about a movie or putt putt or something?" I said, "Well if your knee can handle it I am totally up for some putt putt!" He said, "Putt putt it is!"

We pull up to Drakes Creek and get in line to pay. There was one family in front of us to pay and it was about 15 minutes before our turn. I laughed out loud when he leaned over and said, "We have had some of the best customer service I have had in a long time."....Sarcasm....I like it. We get ready to go and he said, "I'm going to warn you I might embarrass myself, I haven't played in a while." I said, "Well I won't lie and will warn you I am pretty amazing at it." "He said, "Oh I have no doubt." We kept score and he was very encouraging and every time I would say, "Oh I like this one" or "This one is really hard" He would say "This is so not fair you have home course advantage." One of my favorite conversations went like this.

The water in the "lake" at Drakes Creek was maybe a half and inch deep and brown.
Kayla: "I wonder why that water is so weird"
Mr. Knee Surgery: "Weird? That was the first word that came to your mind? Hmm I would really like to hear the Kayla logic on why that water is weird?" Laughing
Kayla: "Well look at it I mean its all brown and its normally like a greenish tint"
Mr. Knee Surgery: "Ok so its the color that is bothering you and makes it weird?"
Kayla: "Well I mean its obviously not that deep"
Mr. Knee Surgery: "Really? I hadn't noticed....that is some weeeeirrrd water"

Another favorite conversation.
Mr. Knee Surgery is looking around.
Kayla: "Whatcha looking for?"
Mr. Knee Surgery: "To see if this place has lights because it is starting to get dark"
Kayla: Pointing to lights at the start of each hole. "Oh I think these come on"
Lights come on immediately and Kayla's mouth drops of astonishment. Yep right out of a movie.
Mr Knee Surgery: "Do you have this place rigged?!?!?"
Note: Later in the course one of the lights wasn't working and he said, "Hey Kayla could you ask that light to come on for me." Kayla, "Come on" Mr. Knee Surgery starting cracking up and I said, "I can't abuse my powers." "I probably would have freaked out and left if it came on anyway"

After putt putt, I saw him glancing at the batting cage and I thought oh great I am in a black dress that I would consider short. This is about to happen. He said lets do the batting cage! We get our quarters and go to the slow pitch softball. He said I am going to need you to go first to show me how its done. I get up to bat and hit every one. Apparently I did a little victory dance in between each one because he said, "I think it helps when you do the butt swagger and your dance!" He let me have my turn 3 times in a row!

All in all it was an amazing date. Nothing went wrong. Well other than the tea. I haven't had a date in a very very long time where nothing has gone wrong. I am hopeful that there will be another date, but always if not, it was well worth a fun night and I am so glad that I went. I'll keep you posted and thank you Mr. Knee Surgery!

Remember Mr. Knee Surgery :-)

So if you have been keeping up with the blog, you might remember my excitement to meet Mr. Knee Surgery, but hence the knee surgery, he was not ready for a date and was waiting to recover. Then unexpectedly after a great texting conversation one night, magically, he just stopped texting. I figured he was busy or had met someone else considering it had been well over a week since I had heard from him. Then completely unexpected at work today I get a text that says "I'm sure you are ready to kill me now for disappearing but I broke my phone and haven't been able to replace it until yesterday. I am so sorry and I would love to have coffee this weekend if you are free." YAY! Then it hit me....detox equals no coffee. So I casually explained that I was not mad at all and would like to meet him however I am on a new plan to improve my health and it does not include coffee.....He said how about smoothies....I said it does not include dairy or fruit I am normally not this high maintenance I am really sorry. So long story short we are going to dinner tomorrow night and I am STOKED! He seems super nice and fun. Fingers crossed I'll keep you posted!

When you know, you know

A little update on my Match.com adventures. Basically there is nothing going on. That isn't really an exaggeration. That could very well change this afternoon, as I am either talking to no one or emailing 5 guys at the same time. I feel like this time around there are not as many options as last time. I am hoping this is a good thing and maybe a sign of some slight maturity in a year's time. I learned from last time that it is a good thing to be picky, and that is what I am doing. I also learned that if a guy suddenly becomes uninterested, it is not the end of the world, he is just not interested and there will be another one eventually. Truthfully, why would I want to spend time talking to a guy who doesn't really think I'm awesome anyway? No big deal. Move on to the next prospect.

The main thing that I am doing differently not just on Match.com but in the dating world in general, is to keep my standards where I want them. I don't want to "go out" just to have something to do when I know the person is not going to be someone I am interested in moving forward with. I think girls and maybe guys too make this mistake often and it is a reason for a lot of unnecessary heartbreak. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single and enjoying this time in your life. You should never feel alone enough to be with someone just to replace being alone. This does not mean I am cancelling out everyone that emails me, but I am definitely looking a lot closer into the fine print of the profiles.

God has a plan for me as he does for you too. I do hope He uses His sense of humor on some of my dating adventures (not forever haha) just to keep things fun and interesting, but I am being patient and just enjoying the ride. This blog may be a little deeper than the others, but quite honestly I just don't have anything worth mentioning and I think this is the reason why. I do have a friend who has met a guy on match.com and they are moving forward in their relationship and she is very excited. I am so happy for her and it was a reminder that there is hope that eventually "When you know, you know" :-)

First Date with Mr. Quarterback

Well last night I had my Mr. Quarterback date. He drove from Nashville and got a little lost so I did wait in the parking lot for a few minutes. That was fun. Every car that passed I thought to myself "Oh gosh is that him, oh no he has a girl in the car, oh no there is a child in the back seat". The suspense did make me a little nervous I won't lie. When he did arrive, he was quite a bit cuter in person than his pictures led on as are most guys. He was tall, dressed nice, and seemed super friendly. We had a great dinner! Turns out he knows a lot of the Titans players which we ALL know impressed me quite a bit. He had a friend from high school that was drafted by the Titans the year before last as a running back. His stories about going out with the players and sitting in the section with the player's wives I think my mouth was open and I did a OMG NO WAY DID YOU MEET COURTLAND FINNEGAN BECAUSE I HAVE A MAJOR CRUSH ON HIM. I couldn't help myself. It came out before I could stop it. Sadly he was the only one he had not met. His family seemed to be very close and a lot like mine. He has a little sister, who he spoke very highly of which I loved. His entire family takes a beach trip every year like mine does. He talked about coaching kid's football camps back home. He is in school for now and is currently looking for a job while he is taking classes. We had great conversation and talked quite a bit even after we finished eating. He said that I was his first Match.com date so that was cool. When we were leaving I showed him an easier way to go home and I said to follow me but I will turn right and he would need to go straight because the right lane ends. He stayed in the right lane so I called him and he said "I just didn't want to leave ya I kept following you!" It was cute. After a nice short and sweet side hug he said he would like to hang out again so we will see how it goes. It was a fun date. I was glad that my first one wasn't a complete bust because it might be a bit discouraging. I am looking forward to see what happens next!

Disaster Relief and Date Tonight

So I have been emailing this guy that was born in Ireland, so cool. Let's hope he has an accent, but it is certainly okay if he doesn't. We'll call him Mr. Ireland He is 22 with 2 brothers and a little sister. He has had some great emails and then they just stopped for about 4 days. I thought he either wasn't interested or just started dating someone else. I was kinda disappointed but just thought oh well. Then to my surprise I got an email from him last night. The opening line was "Hey I'm sorry for the delay, I have been doing some last minute disaster relief in Joplin" I literally laughed out loud and suddenly felt insanely silly and dumb. He is definitely getting bonus points!

I have my date with Mr. Quarterback tonight. I hope that it is fun. Most people always say isn't that so awkward? But honestly in my profession making conversation is never really a problem. Well, even more honestly I am kind of a talker anyway and I talk a lot when I get nervous, so to answer that question, no its not awkward. I really hope I don't ramble like this tonight ;-) I did have a date once where the guy decided to say "Gimme your hand" in the most intense part of an action movie and proceeded to massage it on our first date. YES that was highly awkward. I told him to stop and made a mad dash to my car with a love pat on the back type hug goodnight.

I am excited to be going out! I really enjoy getting all pretty for a date! Its been too long. I have no expectations. I just hope he is nice, which so far I have seen nothing but nice! I'll keep you posted!

I have no new prospects except for a 44 year old who tried to instant message me last night. GROOOOOOSSSSSSS. Do you think he really thinks I would respond?

Picture Perfect

When doing a search on Match.com, you have one picture. Your first impression of how you look. I think this is probably the most important decision you make when creating your profile. I think there are a few possible mistakes that have certainly turned me away and a few things that have caused me to click and see more as well.

It does not matter how pretty you are, the closer you get the camera to your face, the worse it gets.

If you don't have a camera, please don't use your phone in the mirror for a picture. You obviously have a computer, use the webcam, or borrow one. The cell phone picture is just not working.

DO NOT post your main picture as a picture with yourself with a girl, or an obvious cropped out girl on a dating website. Common sense??

I am so attracted to a smile. The more you frown in your pics the sadder you look and the more mugshotish it looks. A smile makes you look beautiful :-)

Do you really think it is a good idea to have yourself holding an alcoholic beverage (or 2) in your main picture? For some reason this is not screaming "I want a committed relationship" but maybe that is just me.

If you are wearing a hat in your main picture, I automatically think your bald. In your defense, that may just be a hairstylist thing.

I have a date on Wednesday with a guy who recently moved here and does not know many people. He used to be a quarterback in school. We'll see how it goes! I heard from Mr. Knee Surgery last night and apparently he is recovering well! Jokingly when he asked me what I was doing the other day, I said I had laid out and a butterfly attacked me and I thought it was a Cicada so I flipped out, but luckily I survived. He said when we have our coffee date he would bring me a cicada. Last night I said well all the cicadas will be gone when we have our coffee date, but luckily he said he would freeze one for me. How thoughtful ;-)

From emailing phase to texting phase

The phases of the communication when beginning a friendship on match.com normally follow the same progression. Winking, Emailing, Texting, calling, meeting, meeting again, and so on. From what I learned last time, you want to move to the meeting phase as fast as possible. I think that when you email someone and text someone, with no idea what the person's voice or tone or sense of humor is like, you form those things in your mind, then when you meet and its not what you thought you have immediate disappointment. Such as when I met a guy who was really nice, but had such a high voice I couldn't get passed it! Meeting quickly is the key to not getting to attached to the unknown.

Just my luck, one of the guys that I am really interested in had knee surgery today. I was flattered that he texted me right after his surgery! Although I do think he was a little drugged, I thought that was quite cute. But of course I picked the injured guy that isn't sure when he will get better, I hope sooner rather than later so we can meet for coffee. :-)

I also had some interesting emails today. After a few emails, I asked a guy what his favorite thing to do in Nashville was, he replied "I am a romantic so I enjoy hanging out with a beautiful girl like you" Is this too much of a line? I'm leaning towards yes. Another guy sent one with a subject line titled "Hey Sweetheart" Please refer to blog #2.

I can't wait to update you on Monday! Are you enjoying the blog?

The night I got injured on a date....As well as Top 10 code phrases on Match.com

So I have decided to put together a few key phrases from match.com that are really code for something else. When dating, the use of words are key. Most girls interpret what guys say by what we want to hear, not what they really mean.

1. "I want you to maintain a healthy lifestyle"
Code for: "I don't want you to be fat"

2. "Spiritual but not religious"
Code for: I'm not really sure what this means because my faith is such a huge part of my life, but I feel like you should be able to pick something.

3. "Guy 1 winked at you"
Code for: "Guy 1 thought you were hot but didn't know what to say so he winked"

4. "I like long walks on the beach"
Code for: "I'm really trying to make myself sound romantic right now"

5. "Smoke? Trying to quit"
Code for: "I really don't want to put on here that I smoke"

6. "I'm new to this whole online dating thing"
Code for: "If this is lame at least I can say I was new at it"

7. "Guy 1 has not been active in 3 weeks"
Code for: "Guy 1 has already met someone and is not logging in because he is busy dating"

8. "I'm someone you can grow old with"
Code for: "I want to marry you tomorrow"

9. "I'm willing to lie about where we met"
Code for: "I'm so ashamed that I joined an online dating site"

10. "I'm just looking for a companion"
Code for: We ALL know what this is code for.


Now for a past story.......

Last summer while on match.com, I had been talking to this guy that I was very excited about. Being that I have been working since I was 18, sometimes I have a hard time relating to a guy that is still in college. I am not saying that its a deal breaker, but sometimes it makes things difficult when I don't understand why you have to spend SO much time studying and I am just ready to go out and have fun. With this being said, I was looking for someone a little older with an established career already, and I was convinced I had found him. He was 28, tall, Christian, 2 brothers, and helped with a organization that feeds the homeless on Tuesday nights. HELLO could it get much better? After some emailing, texting, and a couple phone conversations, he asked me to go to dinner and a Sounds game. I was SO excited because I love sports and I thought the Sounds game idea was very original. My wise mother was a little worried for me because that sounded like a LONG first date to her. Boy was she right! Dinner went lovely. As we are walking into the stadium he says, "Hey did you hear about that couple that was at a baseball game and the batter hit a foul ball and it was coming for the couple and the guy moved out of the way and it hit the girl. Now he is getting bashed all over the internet?" I said "Oh my gosh yes that is so horrible!" There was a chance of rain on this evening so we went to the only covered area in the stadium, the top row. We are in the middle of a conversation and in slow motion, like a horror film, I see the ball coming at me. Full speed but so slow all at the same time. My feet were up on the chair in front of me (as they always are) with my knees bent and it is coming right for the back of my thigh.....ok who am I kidding it's coming to my butt. For some odd reason in true Kayla fashion, my first instinct is to try and kick this thing flying towards my body. The dude tried to block it but honestly it was not a very promising shield. He wasn't trying too hard. It nails me on the side of my leg. The stinging sensation is still there as I am typing this. It was AWFUL. Then it was like okay what do I do? Do I tough it out? Do I cry and look like a baby? I decided to just keep on going with my conversation like nothing happened. In hindsight, this probably wasn't the best decision. He said "Um are you okay did that hit you" I said "Oh I'm totally fine it wasn't that bad" Thinking to myself, OMG MY LEG IS ON FIRE THAT IS TOTALLY GOING TO BRUISE MAAAAJJJOOORRR. Now normally I try not to text on a date because I find it extremely rude, but I wanted my mommy. I texted her "I just got hit by a foul ball." I think that she, Kenzie, and Dad laughed for hours after making sure I was okay.

Now here is the kicker- The "mature, older guy" didn't even call me or text me the next day to ask me if I was okay. Instead he decided 4 days later he would send me a facebook message that said "Saw your pic of your leg on your fbook, it looks like it was pretty bad. I have thought a lot about this and I think you are just a little too young for me." REALLY? If you think you are too old for me, perhaps you could find another form of communication besides facebook. Maybe a phone?

Lesson Learned: Age is just a number.

The Best Headlines on Match.com

You have one line as your "Headline" to make a first impression. This comes up next to your picture in searches and is the first thing people see on your profile. You really want this to be eyecatching and it is very important. Perhaps some of these would definitely catch your attention.......


love girls love 2 love

Click Here!

If I can't make you laugh, well then I lose

I come from a long line of sinners like me.

If an independant lab rated immune systems, they'd rate mine awesome, that is all.

[Insert witty tag line here]

Gimme 5 minutes, but I'll steal your heart in 2

I'm a Michael Bolton Fan

Just give me a chance to change your mind So before you go and fly away girl Let me show you 'round a country boy's world

Looking for a nice woman I can get along with

I swear I'm cuter in person!!!!!

Tall, not really that dark, and a lot of handsome!

I'm so good I'm jealous of myself

I can't be with a woman who gets drunker than me

You should definitely talk to me

I get mistaken for Mr. Darcy all the time

Stop kissing all those frogs! Prince Charming is here!!!

Complex man looking for a simple woman

It's only egotistical if you tell yourself you are awesome, not if the mirror tells you!

Not into people

Now for my personal favorite.......

Cute butt so I've been told


Oh boys, when you have one shot, choose your words wisely :-)

On a positive note, we do have a coffee date in the works. It looks promising. I'll keep you posted!